telling me I have good style vs telling me I’m pretty
Regarding the title, there is a clear winner for me and I’m not sure if this is controversial or not, but it’s telling me that I have good style;
style lasts forever, looks very unfortunately do not.
In recent weeks, not to sound overly pompous, but many a people have told me that I have ‘good style’ and actually, to sound extremely pompous, my head has in fact gotten bigger.
I feel as though fashion and dressing well has in itself become a bit of a trend; it’s now trendy to look good. Everyone is extremely hyper-fixated on wearing what they think is ‘cool’ and what will be well received by their 120 Tiktok followers and I don’t really think that is a bad thing.
I’ve had to think about it a lot, because at first I felt as though we had lost a lot of individuality; everyone is wearing the same thing: Adidas Sambas, leopard print, big puffy sleeves and Amish-looking collars ( No offence?) I used to think it was a little shitty because how could people know that I was actually stylish if I was wearing what everyone else was wearing.
But actually, I stopped thinking this when I eventually pulled my finger out and realised that I am in fact not the creator of Leopard print, nor am I the creator of the puffy sleeves or the collars… It doesn’t really matter what we wear ,and I do say that with a pinch of salt, but what I mean is that it matters more about how we feel when we wear the things that we like.
I think that dressing well and having a good outfit on can change the way you feel about yourself. It is not an extremely hard notion to grasp: when you’re not feeling 100, putting on somewhat of a good outfit can make you feel a lot more put together than you actually feel.
So perhaps, as a person who forcibly did triple science at GCSE and didn’t excel in either Biology, Physics or Chemistry, I know it’s a little bit far-fetched of me to assume that there is actually definitely some sort of connection (maybe in the neurons?) between fashion and mental health.
If I’ve got a good slick back and a good outfit on, then I’m less likely to feel sad - sorry, that’s definitely 100% science.
Veering away from my very clever hypothesis, I do genuinely believe that being told you have good style is a better compliment than being called pretty, ( well, to me)
I think that style is everything, it’s more than your face, it’s more than something that you happened to inherit from your parents; style is individualistic and is a literal representation of what you feel about yourself or what you want people to think about. Someone complimenting your style is them complimenting you and the part of you that you choose to show, not just your face.
So yes, do tell me how I have good style and how sick you think my outfit is and duh, you can still tell me I’m pretty but like you don’t have to if you don’t want to…
but basically, call me stylish and I’ll be just fine.